Get into the Room

The modern day version of "you are who you hang around."

Get into the Room

I’ve been thinking a lot about the phrase “get into the room.” It seems to be a modern take on you are who you hang around or you are the sum of the five people you spend the most time with.

Where it differs is that you can actually choose your room and doing that can change your life.

Here’s an example.

I love entrepreneurship. It’s been an interest of mine ever since I saw my dad reading Forbes magazine when I was growing up. The exchange of ideas that turns into businesses, solves problems, and creates wealth fascinated me.

So when I moved to Honolulu, I googled women's entrepreneurship groups near me.
There was one literally down the street.

It was a society of 150 female entrepreneurs with a gorgeous ocean-view co-working space, plenty of educational programs, personal development, and wellness offerings.

When I published my book, I hosted a supper club there and worked through strategies with the group to help enhance their own businesses. I also created a writing course on how to write your own book.

During this time, an idea started to take shape for my next startup. I wanted to combine writing software, voice memos, coaching, and AI into a smart book-writing system, one that preserved the author’s voice but guided them through a real writing experience that would showcase their talent, share their knowledge, and change lives.

One day, as I taught my weekly writing class to a woman working on a memoir, I mentioned wanting to create software around my writing method. She told me we should talk.

It turned out she was an early AI adopter, a venture-backed founder, a Silicon Valley operator and her husband was the co-founder of a highly successful tech firm.

Of all the women who could have taken my class, she did.

I had created a room for someone else to learn but in the end, I was the one who walked away with my first advisor for the tech company I’m now building. Her guidance has helped me in so many ways. It led me to other high-level advisors, a development shop to bring the product to life, and the confidence to move forward as a non-technical founder building a tech company from scratch.

So when a coach tells you to get into a room, I fully agree with the advice.

Find something that sparks your interest and then get into that room.

There are classes, coaches, masterminds, workout groups, faith-based circles, creative hobbies, walking clubs, cooking classes, beach yoga, you name it. The right room is out there.

Here are some rooms I have enjoyed in the last year that you might be interested in:

Oak + Pine Society
Goal Getters Collab
Emily Judice’s Health & Wealth Challenge
The Regulated FEM CEO
The Mapuana Reed Show

I’d love to hear in the comments what room you’re getting into.

I would also like to invite you into my brand new room on Skool. If you want to write your business building book in 2026 and test TellaDraft, I would love to have you. Its free! You can join it here.

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